Day 7: Love believes the best
(Love) believes all things, hopes all things. 1 Corinthians 13:7
The day's dare involved me getting two sheets of papers and spending a few minutes to write down positive things about my hubby on one sheet and negative things on the other sheet.
This was also the day that all the couples were to meet and assess the previous week.
Almost all couples testified of the fact that the last week was special. "We have never spent a whole week without a fight with my spouse!" This was a general comment from all couples. People witnessed their spouses doing wonderful things they had never expected to be done for them. It was a good week.
Personally, my hubby and I realized, like I shared in my earlier posts, that the things we are doing for each other are not necessarily new. In fact, there's nothing new that we have done for each other. We have done most of these things for each other in the past. However, being asked to do it intentionally made it stand out. We realized that in a marriage, its very easy to take life, love and each other for granted. The Love Dare dares us to actually purpose to love our spouses "intentionally" and not wait for activities like these to remind us to love our spouses.
We shared this with our team mates, and it was a consensus agreement.
Other things came out of yesterday's discussions like the kind of friends we maintain/ listen to for our marriage advise.
"Not everyone has the material to be a good friend... In fact, anyone who undermines your marriage does not deserve to be given the title of 'friend'"
"You must guard yourself against the wrong influencers. Everyone has an opinion and some people will encourage you to act selfishly and leave your mate in order to pursue your own happiness. Be careful about listening to advice from people who don't have a good marriage themselves."
In Other news, there is this couple who have been married for close to 30 years and have NEVER KISSED!!!! Like how????? One wants and longs so much for a kiss, while the other says; "Every time I want to kiss him, I remember the beans we had for supper and I want to throw up!"
We also have people who generally claim that kissing isn't in their cultures. How do they start?
See how culture and personalities can affect our marriages.
In the traditional African culture, we don't kiss. We only make babies, and hold each other. Now, with the invasion of the western culture, more and more people go into marriage definitely expecting kisses, and the common PDA (public display of affection)! This is new. Some of us have adjusted, while the rest will take ages.
We are all hoping though that the couple finally kisses before the 40 days elapse. Watch this space!
